Couples Therapy

In Susan's view, the ability to feel connected and cherished in our primary relationship is the crowning achievement of human evolution. To hear and understand our partner's joys, fears and frustrations — while having the same gift given to us — provides vitally important respite and nurturing in our often difficult and hostile world. She also believes that a healthy parental relationship sets a positive example for children as they move forward in their own lives.

Sadly however, many couples struggle with deep and longstanding patterns of behavior that feel impossible to escape. If not addressed, such behaviours can jeopardize the quality of the relationship, and may ultimately lead to a unilateral or collective decision to end the relationship.

Who it's for:

For couples in a range of circumstances, such as:

• Those preparing for marriage or a long-term commitment that are aware of, and wish to address, unresolved personal or relationship issues.
• Those struggling in their current relationship due to conflict between themselves, with other family members, or as a result of unavailability, infidelity, addiction and other marital stresses.
• Those dealing with separation or divorce, seeking to achieve closure in their relationship.

How Susan can help:

For couples choosing to remain in the relationship: Susan uses emotionally focused couples therapy (EFT), combined with a range of individual therapy techniques (see Types of Therapy), to illuminate the couple's challenging behaviour patterns, lessen the blame and hurt they feel, and ultimately create a more connected relationship.

For couples choosing to dissolve the relationship: For one or both partners, the end of a relationship involves feelings of guilt, anger, humiliation and failure. Susan works with the couple to lessen these emotions, bring closure to the relationship, move forward and, where children are involved, learn to parent peacefully. Learn about Susan's work with couples involving Collaborative Family Practice.

Desired outcome:

The aim is for couples to achieve happier and healthier relationships based on openness, caring, trust and mutual respect.